Consider yourself exceedingly lucky if you have true friends. They are our confidence. After all, we need to share those fun jiffies with someone, which rather be hidden from our family! They make our lives easier, bearable in times of crises and more enjoyable in times of happiness and joy. Even their hurtful pranks or sweet scolding don’t bother us, since we know that they will never leave our side during adversities and are keepers for life. Some of our most cherished and memorable memories are formed with them, which shape up our lives. However, since no real relationship is complete without conflicts between the two parties, there are times when we indulge in serious fights as well.
So, here is the list of some of the common reasons as to why closed persons fight:
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Misunderstanding
When you care for someone, misunderstandings do happen. It happens between two close people.
90 per cent of all the problems arise due to misunderstandings, and ironically, they can be resolved equally easily. Misunderstandings are the key to broken friendships. You might have heard someone say something about you to someone else, and so on and so forth. Gossip spreads like wild fire. Some people are experts at exaggerating things and adding their own tit- bits to make the gossip spicier. The best way to avoid this is to confront your friend directly. You should trust your friend more than some other person who just loves to talk and intrude into the lives of others.
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Time distribution
One of the many reasons because of which people fight is the lack of time management skills governed by people. If you are in a relationship, you need to distribute your time between your partner, your friends and family. You should not neglect any of the above parties. If you spend most of your time with your lover, then your friends might feel insecure and they will start distancing themselves from you. Misunderstandings arise, and friendships break. Friends constitute an equally important part of your life, so it’s better to not desert or disregard them.
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Money related problems
Money is a very powerful tool, which can easily ruin relations. It will take no time to break a friendship which might’ve taken ages to flourish and bloom. This simple piece of paper is given more importance than anything else in this world. Monetary problems do arise, and are inevitable. We might loan our friend some money, we may owe them some, or it might be their time to pay the bill. Problems of such sort arise almost all the time. However it depends on us as to how we deal with them. We should not let money come in the way of our friendship with someone, because some things in this world are priceless.
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Jealousy
We can be jealous of our friends on numerous grounds, be it career wise or regarding their love life. Amongst our friend circle, some may become very successful in their respective careers, and others, not so. Jealousy breeds hatred. No matter how much we like our friends, we will start feeling insecure or inferior in some way, which might result in fights. Sometimes, we might start developing feelings for our friends’ ex-boyfriends/girlfriends. This will definitely lead to an unavoidable fight.
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Different mind-sets
We might not always agree upon a topic of discussion or general day to day things with our friends. And that is completely fine, since no two people think likewise and everyone is entitled to their own opinion. It is better to have a friend who has his/her own views and beliefs rather than someone who agrees with everything that we say or suggest. However, sometimes, this leads to situations where we cannot see eye to eye and find a common ground. Such circumstances lead to conflicts of interest, where neither of the two sides are ready to give up on their perspectives and stances.
Misunderstandings take place in various circumstances and conditions: at home, at work, between social and ethnic classes, between religions and nations. They can lead both to small complications or troubles in our everyday life and large-scale conflicts between societal groups and cultures. Here are small tips how to overcome from misunderstandings.
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harmony and productive communication
Always we are looking to win or to be proven right. It is more important that you should gain a new understanding, which Express that you are seeking the harmony once existed and get back to productive Communications.
The best way to solve any fight is Communication.
So, Talk to them and just resolve it. Because more gaps means more differences and that means losing that bond between both.
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Value their strength and motivations
What does this person bring to the table? How do they contribute to the world? What are the responsible for and how does that affect their prospective? You should remind yourself talents, skills, and values to help you focus on them instead of you.
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Feel their problem
You should be able to feel and understand the problems of others, which will help you to respond appropriately to the situations. Typically associated with social behaviour which leads to more Helping Nature of you.
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Determine how they judge others
When seeking theirs prospective you should look at how they judge others in hopes of understanding them better. Some people make based on persons people skill, are there problem solving talents, or how well a person can persuade and influence others. How they judge is a key to how they see the world.
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Consider their fears
All happy even if we don’t consciously realise what they are. Some folks fear not getting work done on time. Others fear criticism or afraid they will be taken advantage of their activity. Considering their fears can provide you insight into the misunderstanding.
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Practice active listening.
Don’t believe in gossiping, go and ask to be clear to the point.
Discuss expectations.
Take responsibility.
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